Ho Ho Ho Happy New Year

Don't you love new beginnings :) I'm so excited about 2011. As you can tell from my latest post, that time flies which is truly a while ago. It exactly did. It flew a way. I truly caught up within the beauty of my career in social media, my life, my family, my friends. But I don't regret a bit. I love what I do. I love my family, my career, and myself. I'm looking forward 2011, as the harvest year. I'm not setting up New Year's resolutions because my goals are not just for a year but a lifetime. I know that if you believe in yourself, if you believe in your dreams; nobody can ever stop you.

There were so many good memories and so many bad memories but what matters that I know how to learn from my mistakes, I know how to stand when things go wrong and most importantly I know how to smell the roses. I know how to enjoy my family as my quality time. And that is what matters to succeed in life. Your values makes who you are.

Its so good to be back and finding time to my personal blog. I love you all and wish you a Happy New Year. Enjoy your life :)

Time flies or stops, its in your hand :)

You know what I realize when I watch the timer when I set it up for 3 minutes while I was cooking. Time stopped. It made me realize if you are watching time and start counting seconds, time stops. If you rush for life, then its flies by. Days follow days, hours follow hours and before you realize it, here it comes Friday. Is it bad? No, definitely not. Who doesn't like Fridays'. Its the best day of the week. Than you can have some free time for yourself, for your family. But if your are the pusher, time flies and you can't enjoy it. So please STOP and smell the roses. Enjoy your day, your time, your hour, your second. Slow down. Life has a lot of simple things you can enjoy. But if you move too fast you will overlook most of them. So don’t be in a hurry. Don’t move too quick. Slow down and pay attention to the world around you.
Life is not enjoyable when you've taken the wrong path and slowly lost confidence, or when you are no longer happy with yourself. If this sounds like your life, you need to fix it!
Do what you love to do... Make your goals and sequence your steps to reach there. Believe in yourself and motivate yourself. Things will happen as you wish to see.
Try to do things differently, try to do new things, or try not to do things you usually do. Doing things differently could give you some benefits:
First it challenges your assumptions; many things which you have taken for granted may turn out to be incorrect. What you’ll find may surprise you.
Second of all, it opens new possibilities. Since you go “out of the box”, things which are normally not in your radar may now come to your life. You may find that some of those new things are very interesting and useful.
Here's a list of 101 delights that are worth enjoying today by Sarah McColl.
Be happy to be alive. Appreciate what you have, love yourself, share that love and most important; Enjoy your second.

My Daughter Got Her Braces Today

Everyday in life we're learning and experiencing new things. I believe if you have kids and if they need orthodontic adjustment; you probably get through this before. My daughter got her spacers last week and Dr. Cooper took them out and put the braces today. If you didn'tget through those stages; let me share my experience with you. Spacers are just little tiny rubber bands that they stick in between her teeth to "space them out" its like having a thick peice of floss stuck in your teeth. Spacer accually hurt more than braces especially since its like the first thing they do, and shes not used to any pain in her mouth. I gave her midol and stuff which should help. The pain last only the first few days. anyways, yes, if the spacers dont just fall out on their own from her eating or from the teeth spacing out enough, they just pull them out then put a big metal band around the back teeth and little brakets on all the others followed by a wire and some colored rubber bands of her choice! Like they did to her today. The colors was her favorite part. She picked pink and hot pink. They say, it just takes a while to get used to the pain.
The best experience about today was our choice. We picked Dr. Jeffrey Cooper and he made the whole process so easy for my daughter. She explained everything step by step. He acted so friendly and professional at the same time. I'm thankful to him and happy to have him in this journey.
Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.
Phillip C. McGraw #quote

But still I know that there is alot of pressure and pain, any suggestions about what to do for the pain for her?

Happy Father's Day

Since I took all my business post over to Promin Social Media; I decide to keep up this blog with my personal posts and about my life story. So for todays special edition; I want to talk to fathers. I love my dad, his name is Nejat Sencebe. He is a character. While me and my sister growing up. He told my mom that raising the girls is a big responsibility so he decide to be the authority and never showed his love to us but always the strict one. We were so afraid of him. He never allowed us to go out at night with our friends. You know when I realized that he loves me; the day that I got married. He cried. He really cried. That I told to myself woww- He loves me. Why he waited so long. As a little girl, you need him to hug you. You need him to be understanding. Later I've learned that after we slept; he used to come our bed and watch us; but without showing us so we don't saw his weakness. Isn't it sad? But it was the culture that I've been raised. And also I think he didn't raised up in a loving environment. He lost his dad at the age of seven.
He has one photograph that he kept as a treasure from his childhood with his dad. Even his father wrote on the back of photo that "9-3-1938 Necat kicked by a donkey, because he was a naughty boy and showing that he got kicked by his head"
After his father passed a way, my grandma sent my father to a boarding school. That was the main reason he didn't get the love that he was looking, he never know how to show his love. But today at the age of 46, I know that he loves me, and I want him to know that I love him and I understand him. So even if you have heartbreaks, even if you have problems with your dads; Call them today, Visit them, Hug them. Just be appreciated that you have a dad, my dad lives so far a way from me. But I'm so appreciated that he is alive, he loves me and I love him.

To my Father in Law Ismet Gunver that I also love dearly, I know he's watching us from heaven and I'm waving to him. Happy Father's Day Daddy

Privacy Matters

Okay lesson learned, I'll never say see you tomorrow, because God knows what tomorrow brings to you. In any case I'll write my life story time to time, it won't be like a diary. But for now I want you to look at an important subject with me. Privacy issues! There are so many things going on through Facebook and other sites. Its obvious that Some quitting Facebook as privacy concerns escalate . The issue with Facebook isn’t so much that information is being shared, it’s that information is being freely shared, but at the time of posting, people thought it was private. Facebook went from an “opt in” network to an “opt out” network. This is bad for Facebook users, but it’s a good teaching moment. As parents and pioneers in the social web, we can use this moment in time as a teaching tool. I definitely won't quit Facebook. But what I'm saying is that you should be aware of your responsibilities. You should be conscious. Consciousness is basically awareness. Awareness of many great things. Your existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings, actions, etc.. By being aware, you have a better understanding of your environment. So instead of ignoring the situations, problems; we need to solve them. We need to teach our kids the Internet responsibility. Because those type of stories are really and truly heartbreaking. "Facebook Fake Lures Teen Nona Belomesoff Into Death Trap, Say Cops; Job Offer Ends in Murder" The more you get involved with social media, you are allowing more and more people to your online presence. But if and when you want to meet in person, you should do a big research, to see whether that person exists or not; who is he/she? There are so many online networks that one way or another it gives you the hint of that persons character. If you are not sure, please don't risk your life. There is Skype, that you can meet face to face, if its that urgent you want to meet. Privacy matters, Your Life Matters.

A Funny Combination

My Life Story -3



I'm a funny combination. I'm half Turkish and half Greek. It's pretty amazing how I have two great cultures in my family. My mother's side is from Crete Island, which is the largest and most populous of the Greek islands and the fifth largest island in the Mediterranean Sea.



They were my mom's grandma and grandpa from Crete. My great grandma was such an important person for me. When I was growing up, she was the person telling me about Crete Island and great stories about Knossos Palace with a broken Turkish. After settling in Turkey, they kept their Cretan Greek just at home, and tried to speak Turkish. I remember while I was growing up, the woman family members of my family used to speak Greek, while they were gossiping. My grandpa was so strict about using one language at home and it was Turkish.

In this picture you can see my mom's parents.

So now lets look at my father's side, they were from Uzbekistan. They settled in istanbul after they moved to Turkey almost a century ago. My father was only 7 years old when his father passed a way.


After my grandpa passed a way, my grandma lived with my aunt and sent my father to a boarding school. He never received the love from his mother and he searched for it his entire life. He tried to keep his loving relationship with his mom, even when I was growing up.
So after this photo summary let me explain how this start effected my life. My mothers side was from Crete and they always had and still have a close relationship; a big family, lots of food and lots of love. My fathers side was always cool, distant, and didn't have many family connections. So as you can imagine it was the biggest conflict in my family. A huge conflict...
But that's it for today. See you tomorrow!

A Letter To God

I was thinking to start form the beginning, but as of very early this morning I changed my mind. You know why, let me tell you the story. It was Hidrellez last night, it's a Turkish spring festival, which is celebrated throughout the country. But more than that, there is a tradition that you write your wishes, go out and find a rose tree and plant them. Because whatever you wish for on Hıdrellez, will come true :) So as I've been told and did this so many years, I've keep this as a tradition from my homeland. Last night my older daughter, who is in college sent a beautiful message and I printed it out. My 13 year old came along and told me that she also wrote a letter. I didn't read it, she folded it and I planted it out at midnight. As of early this morning, I took it out and before putting them aside, I want to read it. So here we go:

"Please, my family has gone through a lot this year, bad days, tears and more. I love my family, they are the strongest people I know. If something bad happens we stick together and hold our heads up high. They sacrifice everything for us, love us, and do anything just to see a smile upon our faces. They are my family, my friends and my guardian angels. We all look out for each other through thick and thin. I ask that this year and all the years to come are full of happiness, love and success. Please help my whole family and to have wonderful years coming up. My family is more important than anything else in the entire world and they deserve so much and more. I'm still thankful for everything I have. My family are very fortunate to be where we are. I just ask for your help. I know you will guide us and lead us. -The love of a family is life's greatest blessing"

I wish all your prayers come true, see you all tomorrow :)

My Life Story

I have a pretty funny background. I'm almost 46 years old, just one life story, but when I look back it was like so many lives that I've lived. I'm pretty new at blogging. So every time when I decide to write something, it's challenging. Just to be honest with you guys, when I listen to others and almost have common stories, it always makes me comfortable that I'm not alone. So if you are reading this post now, you're probably thinking that you have the same moments. I believe sharing is everything, and thats why we are here. Thats why we are networking, not only to sell our products but to make friends and share stories. I decided to write my story, maybe there are only one or two people that want to be friendly and will say hi. Maybe they will read my story, and wont feel lonely anymore.
So please stop by and say hi, introduce yourself. If you are my Twitter follower or we are friends on Facebook, it will allow us to get to know each other better.
I want to thank my dear friend David Steel, who encouraged me to share my story. I hope he's right, so you'll enjoy being with me in my journey. Hope to see you all tomorrow as I will start from the beginning...

Don't be too serious, life is short

Are you having fun? Do you get a thrill from your work? Do you enjoy waking up each morning?

Myths about work can hurt your progress. "Work is not supposed to be fun." "You must buckle down and get serious."

Perhaps the biggest myth of all: "People will think I’m important if I act seriously." Yet getting serious creates problems: stress, worry, anxiety, emotional pain, drudgery and failure.

Resolving problems by getting more serious is like fixing a computer with a hammer. The harder you try, the worse the problem becomes.

"When life becomes serious, a man becomes less cause and greater effect. If life gets really serious, his value drops to practically zero. Driving a car can become such serious business that one can wreck the car. Running a business can become so serious as to make it fail. There is a direct connection between insanity and seriousness." "It is only when an individual progresses in life to a point where much seriousness is attached to things that he begins to have a hard time. The ancient Italian really knew what he was about when he considered that the only psychotherapy was laughter." — L. Ron Hubbard

12 Ways to Lighten Up

Approaching your life with a non-serious attitude gives you a clearheaded view of difficulties and the energy to deal with them. Problems are easier to solve, people are more cooperative and you feel more relaxed. You probably live longer and more successfully, as well.

Try these ideas until you find one that lightens you up.

1. Deliberately turn a molehill into a mountain. Make a big deal out of a little problem. "I would feel much better if these papers were stacked exactly like this! Not like that! Like this! Not this! This!"

2. Ask yourself, "Is getting serious about this situation really going to improve it?"

3. Focusing on the positives. "What is right about this situation?" "What else is right?" "What else?"

4. Consider a complete, major change. For example, go back to school, move to the ocean, start a new career.

5. Ask yourself, "When I’m on my deathbed, will I be glad I was so serious about _______?"

6. A challenging game is much better than no game at all. So consider losing all aspects of the problem. Examples: You feel serious about family problems. You ask yourself, "Well, what if I had no family at all?" You feel serious about your investments. You ask yourself, "What if I had no money to invest?"

7. The size of your problem may match the size of your game. So get a bigger game. For example, if you get uptight about paper clips being in the wrong drawer, your game size is tiny. Double your amount of responsibility. Set some huge goals. Succeed by thinking much, much bigger.

8. Stop trying to solve the problem that is making you so serious. Certain types of problems solve themselves if you leave them alone. Your problem may be one of those.

9. Compare what you are doing to other careers. Imagine being a septic tank drainer or a tax collector.

10. Make everyone around you lighten up.

11. Look at bizarre solutions. What is the craziest way you could solve your problem? What solution, if it worked, would make you laugh out loud?

12. Act stupid for a minute. Let down your hair. Stop being so darn important for a while. Be a goof!




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A Hero Will Live Forever In Our Hearts

It was last Saturday, early in the morning. I heard the news. One of my friends son got killed in Afghanistan. Cpl. Michael D. Jankiewicz was killed at the age of 23 along with three others, when a U.S. Air Force Osprey crashed in Zabul Afghanistan. Michael was serving his fourth deployment in support of the War on Terror. He was currently serving as an Army Ranger, a member of the military's elite rapid-strike force that specializes in covert missions.

Could you guess where I first heard about the story from? I didn't hear it from my friend. I've came a across this tragedy in a Facebook fan page of our town Ramsey, where we all gather and be one great community. This great guy, so called Ramsey dude, leading a great page for our town. He's always on top of the news, he gathers us around our sorrows, problems, happiness, celebrations... I want to congratulate him for what he's been doing.
We gathered in Main Street this past Thursday to "Welcome Our Hero", nearly everyone along the route held tight to an American flag. “It’s extremely important for the family to know that, people loved their son and support what he has done” said Tom Egan, a Vietnam Veteran from VFW Post 850 in Glen Rock in an article last Thursday at "northjersey.com". It was so true, Michael's mother Serena told me that, she clearly remembers every person on the way. That made her so proud. That was at least we can do for the family.
As I was posting some updates on my Twitter account, I received so many responds from so many people all over the world. They cried for him, they prayed for him and the family. A heartfelt "Thank You", whoever joined our sorrow and became one with the family and showed a beautiful display of love and respect.

How to get ready for the week ahead?

Getting ready for the week :)
One of the best things that has helped me to keep focused on maintaining a better lifestyle is planning. On Sundays, like today, I like prepare a few things ahead of time for the week to come. For example, I revised all the work I need to accomplish during the week.

Anyone who is on a few social networking sites knows that it can sometimes be a little overwhelming. It can take up a lot of your time, and so you are thinking of ways to continue being on top of your social media life without forsaking all the other things that are important to you. So you should be prepared a head of time.

If you’re too tired keeping up with the real time options of tweeting, and you still want to “keep your timeline alive” throughout the day, there are so many really neat twitter schedulers lined up for you. Some of them ... HootSuite, Twuffer, Twaitter, SocialOomph.


I feel that preparing several things ahead on one day helps me make better choices throughout the rest of the week, and keeps me on track.

Go with the flow

I feel life is not treating me well lately, and it's only my fault. I always have trust in people. I always think that they're good and the love I gave; I'll get in return. It's not the reality. May be because of the economic problems we have lately. May be its my ignorance. People are using your love, your honesty, your friendship. They seem friendly, close until they got what they want. When I write this, it seems and sound harsh; but its true. So may be I have to take my guard and not to trust people in the first hand. May be I have to keep the distance. But I know for sure it'll effect my personality. Cause I need to trust my friends, I need to have faith in people. May be I have to go with the flow; what do you think?

Social Media Business Forum in Europe, Istanbul Turkey

It has been a while since I was able to write my blog post. I had many ups and downs during that time. I truly enjoyed the holiday season but it was not as relaxing as previous years. I put my heart and my knowledge in preparing a forum in Social Media and its effects in business world. There is a study conducted by researchers Nora Ganim Barnes and Eric Mattson, and the study looked at 148 of the 500 companies on the 2009 list. Respondents were asked about their usage and familiarity with six types of social media tools, including blogging, podcasting, online video, social networking, message boards, and wikis. While Twitter and other social networking sites have seen significant growth in comparison to previous years, some older social media tools such as message boards and podcasting has declined. The important part for me is; many companies that have not yet incorporated social media in their business operations say they intend to do so in the future. For example, 44 percent of companies without a company blog say they plan to start one, and 36 percent intend to use some form of online video.

That was quite interesting, it was a great study to show us the growing interest. My aim is to combine my years of knowledge and experience in traditional marketing with presently famous social media marketing in order to leverage the unified marketing efforts of my company.

The idea to carry this and starting a series of events to show "the relation and correlation between social media and business" ended up with an event named "Social Media Business Forum In Europe". I met and become friends with amazing people in social media environment during this journey. I partnered up with a great woman Elif Dagdeviren who was in written, broadcast and online media and entertainment business for the last 15 years in Turkey, both national and international, experienced in how to be a brand in those fields.
I have great speakers, who believed in me, who come along in this journey and be a part of a great team that I believe we'll work so many years together. Shelly Kramer, Tim Moore, Ty Downing, Jacob Morgan, Patrick O'Malley, David Steel, Darren Monroe Last but not least I want to thank my coworkers in Promin Group without their support and understanding none of this would happen especially my angel and lucky charm Candan Ustun Demiral. I want to thank you all. This is already a great success to me and hopefully we'll make it a global success together.
So why Turkey, Because I love Turkey. But more than that I truly researched similarities and differences between two countries cultures. Not only in Social Media but in general. This event will be a nice bridge between two countries business worlds, and show us how we can integrate social media to build up a different bridge that is already established in cyber world. So please if you are in Istanbul February 10, 2010 come and join us. If you are in another part of the world, join us with your hashtag #smforum and be a part of this journey with us.